Sunday, 7 May 2017

Pleasures of Parenting



Pleasures of Parenting


The best moments of your life are the moments which you spend with those whom you love very much. Who else do you love more than your family and kids? But in young age, we are so engrossed in making money that we have no time for them. In the end, we realize that we have missed the most beautiful and most blessed thing in life.
Children do not need your money. They need your time and attention. They don’t need your presents; they need your presence. Spend time with them. Talk to them. Play with them. Appreciate and encourage them. Help them when they fall, support them when they fail and cheer them when they win. Correct them when they commit mistakes and discipline them when they deviate from the right path. Teach them what to do and what not to do in life. Give them the confidence that you are always with them in all ups and downs. Develop them as winners and achievers, innovators and leaders who will rock the world.
Effective parenting is a great responsibility. Like a good gardener, you have to patiently watch the sapling grow day by day. Water it, nourish it, nurture it and tend it with love and care. Trim and prune all unnecessary outgrowths. Weed out negative emotions and feed it with the fertilizer of positive values. A day will come when beautiful flowers will bloom. They will dance gorgeously in the morning breeze and spread their sweet fragrance far and wide. You will also feel pride, joy, contentment and fulfillment, watching them from your verandah.

A child who is brought up with love and care will radiate affection and warmth around himself. There is no greater pleasure than re-living your childhood with your kids and there is no greater loss than missing your kid’s childhood.

Sunday, 30 April 2017

Schedule your time


Schedule your time


Nature gives twenty four hours to everyone; neither more nor less to anyone. Time is the scarcest resource. It is at once the most valuable and the most perishable of all our possessions. Those who make the worse use of it always complain of its shortage. Enough time is there for the people who know the art of proper utilization and management of it. Not lack of time but lack of direction is the real problem. Optimum utilization of time alone can take to great heights. Ordinary people spend time but great people use it.
The great craft of time management his in systematic time planning. If you fail to man, you plan to fail. Devote most of your time to the most important things in life. Invest this capital in the wisest way.
There should be a daily plan and a long term plan. Make a to-do-list for every day. Note it in a diary or a calendar or program it in your mobile or computer. Always see that your daily plan leads you nearer to your long term goal. There should be a time limit for achieving your target. It will always remind you of the value of fleeting time. Try to do your work with full devotion and honesty within the time frame. Success is the result of the maximum utilization of time. Unexpected problems may crop up but you have to be ready to face them.
There is a biological clock in your body. You have to find out your own biological time when your potential is at its peak. Make the most productive and creative use of that hour.

Learn to say a strong no to those activities which waste your precious time. You cannot recycle wasted time. Lost time is never found again. Saving time is also a sound technique of time management. It enhances your productivity. There is no wrong time to do a right thing. So, just short doing it now. Go the extra mile before your time runs out.

Friday, 14 April 2017

Different Levels of Mind


Different Levels of Mind


Weak minds are interested in gossips. Goodness is rarely discussed. Critising, condemning, back-biting and mud-slinging are the favourite pastime of feeble-minded persons. Personality-dissection and character assassination are relished by the rumour-mongers. Spicy stories and concocted tales about friends, relatives and neighbours are circulated and enjoyed. Recently, a new phenomenon of chatting on social media has become the latest craze. Photos, recipes jokes etc. are shared and like and dislike comments are counted. Your good deeds can be forgotten but the scandalous and frivolous stories are not erased from the public memory. The skeletons of bad name and evil reputation often come out of the cupboard.
Events, incidences and occurrences are the subject matter of the talk of the average people. Every day, newspapers supply such information and material in plenty. Mediocre people gulp down those stories of day-to-day happenings with their morning tea and masquerade all day long as pseudo-intellectuals among their friends and colleagues. Media, both electronic and print, have also degenerated into yellow journalism. They present a distorted picture of reality and do not bring out the inner truth behind any event or action.

There are a few strong minds and superior intellects who discuss ideas and concepts. Ideas rule the world. Thoughts live long and travel far and wide. Men of reason try to discover and deduce the principles and philosophies underlying any event or action. Formulas are more important than examples. Application of knowledge is not possible without knowing the fundamental rule. Such creative thoughts and expressions give something new to the world. Those towering personalities are like light-houses which show the right path to the misdirected ships in the vast ocean.

Saturday, 1 April 2017

Craving for Importance


Craving for Importance


The desire to be important is the natural urge of a human being. Everyone wants to be important in his own little world. After the gratification of your biological wants, you need the feeling of importance. You wear expensive dresses, buy latest mobile phones and purchase luxury cars. You build houses bigger than your requirement and furnish it tastefully. Children want the exclusive attention of their parents. Parents also feel proud in showing off the intelligence of their sons and daughters. Wives like to be appreciated for their cooking skill and good house-keeping. In this male-dominated society of ours, husbands have taken the position of parmeshwar (God) to feel exalted. They even beat their wives or ill-treat their in-laws to show their supremacy. You love to give English names to your pets. Moti has become Monty and Sheru is now Caesar. In jobs and work-place also, you crave for importance and attention of your boss and seniors. You may have read a story in your school text book which narrates that a boy meets an accident in order to get his name and photograph published in the newspaper. All these are disguised attempts to give you the feeling of self-importance. Cut-throat competition, jealousy, malice and criticism- all these are also endeavours to make you more important than others.

There is nothing wrong in it if it is taken in the right spirit. The craving for importance can be a positive motivation. If you improve your work performance or accelerate your productivity, you will get the appreciation and admiration of everyone. And praise is the most precious and prized possession which even saints can rarely deny.

Sunday, 19 March 2017

Get Engaged to Your Dreams





Get Engaged to Your Dreams



Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam once said: “Dream is not that which you see while sleeping, it is something that does not let you sleep.” When eyes are closed, dreams are mere illusions. They are made of unreal stuff. They are our disguised wish-fulfillment. The dreams which we see with our waking eyes are, in fact, our goal, aim or target. They are our vision. The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty and truth of their dreams. If you have dreams in your eyes and courage in your heart, the sky is the limit for you. Chase your dreams. Go confidently and relentlessly in the direction of your dream. Like Arjuna, you have to hit the eye of the revolving fish. Patience, perseverance and perspiration are the three arrows in the quiver of a veteran archer. So dream big. See lofty dreams. We need dreamers. But we need such dreamers who are also doers. Dreams, if not translated into reality, will be mere castles in the air. Desiring to get the moon is one thing and getting the moon is another thing. Hence, give a strong foundation of hard work to your dream-building. Otherwise it will crumble like a house of cards with the slightest gust of wind. All dreamers are not achievers but all achievers are great dreamers. As you dream, so you become. Memories take us back. Dreams take us forward. Novelist Longston Hughes had this to say: “Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.” So, love your dreams, get engaged to your dreams and marry your dreams.

Sunday, 5 March 2017

Come Out of Your Comfort Zone


Come Out of Your Comfort Zone

Difficulties defeat the weak. The brave emerge stronger in odd circumstances. Dr. A.P.J. Abdul Kalam said: “Difficulties in your life do not come to destroy you. They come to help you to realize your hidden potential and power. Let difficulties know you too are difficult.” Paper boats drown; wooden boats sail. Adversity awakens you. It makes you realize your dormant strength. If difficulty is a mountain, you have to be Dasrath Manjhi. If it is a dancing floor, you have to be Sudha  Chandran. Books are replete with thousands of examples of people who have excelled in life despite great difficulties, disabilities and deformities. Like Shakespear’s Caesar, you have to proclaim: “Danger knows full well that Caesar is more dangerous than he. We are two lions littered in one day and I the elder and more terrible.”

So, do not fear dangers and difficulties. They are like sand paper. They scratch you and hurt you. But, in the end, you get polished. Come out of your comfort zone, dare and defeat difficulties. The harder is the conflict, the more glorious is the triumph. There is an old saying that a pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity but an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty. Easy times do not make you better. Hard times test your mettle. Pressure enhances your performance. “A diamond is merely a lump of coal that has transformed itself under pressure.” What a brilliant idea for achievers, winners and victors!

Sunday, 19 February 2017

Be a Fan of Yourself


Be a Fan of Yourself

            Like others but love yourself. It gives an impetus to improve. Instead of seeing one’s face and finding faults in others, people should find their faults and see the beauty of others. All time is a great time for a new beginning. In the journey of self-discovery, you have to shed your masks and identify your true self. Figure out your limitations and weaknesses. Re-invent and re-define yourself. Small modifications everyday can bring big changes in life. It is very easy to click a selfie but it is very difficult to create a long lasting image. It takes years to build a reputation but it can be tarnished or ruined in a few minutes. Reputation is like a glass house which can easily be broken by a throw of stone. Even if it cracks, it gives an ugly look.

            Be a diehard fan of yourself. Go on improving your personality and refurbishing your image. Change not only from outside but also from inside. Keep spiky hair. But, at the same time, make your brain sharp, pointed and witty. If your body is six packs, your mind should be eight packs and heart not less than ten packs. Follow fashion freely but don’t compromise with your culture, tradition value and character. Enjoy the delicious pizzas of Dominos but don’t forget the taste of your mother’s hand. The worth and flavour of Mac Donald’s burger lies in its rich stuffing. Internal material is always much more important than external appearance. A book is judged not by its cover but by its contents. Poor quality is never the hall mark of big brands. You can also become a mini-brand if you don’t compromise with quality and standard. Mediocrity should be unacceptable to you. An awesome life is awaiting you. Just stake your claim.