Saturday, 15 July 2017

Magic of Gratitude



 Magic of Gratitude

 Gratitude means being thankful to all those who help you. It is the sweetness of your personality which uplifts you. You owe a sense of gratefulness for all those who have given you something valuable in life. A prayer is also an act of thankfulness to God for all His bounties. You should be greatly obliged to your parents who have given you birth and brought you up with a lot of hardship and pain. You must be thankful to Nature which gives you all the essentials of life free of cost. You owe a deep sense of indebtedness to Mother Earth which sustains and supports you. You cannot repay the debt of the teacher who has showered the blessings of knowledge and wisdom on you. You must be grateful to your wife who is a constant source of care, comfort and companionship. Whosoever has provided you a little moment of joy and happiness in your life deserves your appreciation. It is well said “When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where the winds of forgiveness can erase it. But when someone does good for us, we must engrave it on stone so that no wind can ever erase it.”
                                           If you have this attitude of thankfulness in your personality, you will befriend the whole world. A heart felt thank you with a warm smile is like an icing on the cake. It is magical in its effect and appeal. It is the sweetest and purest expression of your soul, the fairest and loveliest blossom of your heart and the choicest and finest fragrance of your existence. 

Saturday, 17 June 2017

Sorry, I Am Offline.


Sometimes Be Offline

Switching on the smart phone is the first thing that you do when you get up from your bed. Switching off the mobile phone is the last thing that you do before going to sleep. A sleek and sophisticated smart phone in your hand is a style statement. The access of internet is from bedroom to bathroom. People shop online even from their toilets. We entertain a large number of e-mails, chat notifications, comments and likes every day. The more they are there, the higher is your status. E-mails, facebook, apps, chat, video games have become addictions. Knowingly or unknowingly, we are slave to technology which is a good servant but a bad master.
Be always connected is the new mantra of the modern generation. People want to show off that they are busy. Replying e-mails, updating facebook, waiting for other’s reaction on your latest updates have become fashionable. We get irritated if an e-mail or a message does not come for some time. How many mails come to us daily, how many friends are there on the social media and how many likes or positive comments come on our post are matters of social status and professional prestige. We feel incomplete or imperfect without being on-line. We have become an inalienable and integral part of the virtual world.
Being always connected keeps your mind unnecessarily busy all the time. You lose your mental peace and emotional balance. Give rest to your mind. Let it relax. Multi-tasking also badly affects the quality of your work. You do not concentrate on one work at a time. You have created your own little world within this vast world. Relationship is seriously affected. You are so engaged in the virtual world that you have no time even for your family and kids.
                                                                                                                                                       Get rid of this bad habit which is as dangerous as drug-addiction. Sometimes be off-line. You can connect with yourself in a better way. Disconnect to reconnect.

Saturday, 3 June 2017

Respect Is Reciprocal


Respect Is Reciprocal


Everyone, whether rich or poor, deserves respect. Craving for respect is the natural urge and the eternal quest of mankind. Every individual, however petty his post or position may be, has a dignified existence and human dignity has to be respected and honoured. “I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university”, said Albert Einstein.
Courtesy costs nothing but pays much. In my college days at Patna, I used to have tea in a thatched tea stall. An old man served tea. Students generally addressed him disrespectfully. I called him ‘Baba’. He always offered me special tea without any extra charge. Even if he was busy with other customers, he used to hint me with his hand to wait. It was nothing but my courtesy which pleased him and I got special treatment from him. After a long time, when I was well settled in life, I once again visited his shop during my stay at Patna. He, at once, recognized me and greeted with the same hospitality. I was ready to give five hundred rupees for a cup of tea but he said, “No, my son, it is from my side.” My single word of respect won his heart for ever. Such is the magical power of politeness. If you are well-behaved with the waiter in a hotel, he will serve food more joyfully. Your politeness to a rickshaw puller can make his burden bearable and pleasurable.

Give respect if you want respect. Respect cannot be forced or snatched. It has to be earned with good behaviour. Hazrat Ali beautifully says, “I respect elders because they have prayed more and I respect youngers because they have sinned less.” If the world follows his wise advice, all distinctions of the rich and the poor, the high and the low will diminish. All will be the children of God and all will be equal. This will pave the way for a truly egalitarian society.

Sunday, 7 May 2017

Pleasures of Parenting



Pleasures of Parenting


The best moments of your life are the moments which you spend with those whom you love very much. Who else do you love more than your family and kids? But in young age, we are so engrossed in making money that we have no time for them. In the end, we realize that we have missed the most beautiful and most blessed thing in life.
Children do not need your money. They need your time and attention. They don’t need your presents; they need your presence. Spend time with them. Talk to them. Play with them. Appreciate and encourage them. Help them when they fall, support them when they fail and cheer them when they win. Correct them when they commit mistakes and discipline them when they deviate from the right path. Teach them what to do and what not to do in life. Give them the confidence that you are always with them in all ups and downs. Develop them as winners and achievers, innovators and leaders who will rock the world.
Effective parenting is a great responsibility. Like a good gardener, you have to patiently watch the sapling grow day by day. Water it, nourish it, nurture it and tend it with love and care. Trim and prune all unnecessary outgrowths. Weed out negative emotions and feed it with the fertilizer of positive values. A day will come when beautiful flowers will bloom. They will dance gorgeously in the morning breeze and spread their sweet fragrance far and wide. You will also feel pride, joy, contentment and fulfillment, watching them from your verandah.

A child who is brought up with love and care will radiate affection and warmth around himself. There is no greater pleasure than re-living your childhood with your kids and there is no greater loss than missing your kid’s childhood.

Sunday, 30 April 2017

Schedule your time


Schedule your time


Nature gives twenty four hours to everyone; neither more nor less to anyone. Time is the scarcest resource. It is at once the most valuable and the most perishable of all our possessions. Those who make the worse use of it always complain of its shortage. Enough time is there for the people who know the art of proper utilization and management of it. Not lack of time but lack of direction is the real problem. Optimum utilization of time alone can take to great heights. Ordinary people spend time but great people use it.
The great craft of time management his in systematic time planning. If you fail to man, you plan to fail. Devote most of your time to the most important things in life. Invest this capital in the wisest way.
There should be a daily plan and a long term plan. Make a to-do-list for every day. Note it in a diary or a calendar or program it in your mobile or computer. Always see that your daily plan leads you nearer to your long term goal. There should be a time limit for achieving your target. It will always remind you of the value of fleeting time. Try to do your work with full devotion and honesty within the time frame. Success is the result of the maximum utilization of time. Unexpected problems may crop up but you have to be ready to face them.
There is a biological clock in your body. You have to find out your own biological time when your potential is at its peak. Make the most productive and creative use of that hour.

Learn to say a strong no to those activities which waste your precious time. You cannot recycle wasted time. Lost time is never found again. Saving time is also a sound technique of time management. It enhances your productivity. There is no wrong time to do a right thing. So, just short doing it now. Go the extra mile before your time runs out.

Friday, 14 April 2017

Different Levels of Mind


Different Levels of Mind


Weak minds are interested in gossips. Goodness is rarely discussed. Critising, condemning, back-biting and mud-slinging are the favourite pastime of feeble-minded persons. Personality-dissection and character assassination are relished by the rumour-mongers. Spicy stories and concocted tales about friends, relatives and neighbours are circulated and enjoyed. Recently, a new phenomenon of chatting on social media has become the latest craze. Photos, recipes jokes etc. are shared and like and dislike comments are counted. Your good deeds can be forgotten but the scandalous and frivolous stories are not erased from the public memory. The skeletons of bad name and evil reputation often come out of the cupboard.
Events, incidences and occurrences are the subject matter of the talk of the average people. Every day, newspapers supply such information and material in plenty. Mediocre people gulp down those stories of day-to-day happenings with their morning tea and masquerade all day long as pseudo-intellectuals among their friends and colleagues. Media, both electronic and print, have also degenerated into yellow journalism. They present a distorted picture of reality and do not bring out the inner truth behind any event or action.

There are a few strong minds and superior intellects who discuss ideas and concepts. Ideas rule the world. Thoughts live long and travel far and wide. Men of reason try to discover and deduce the principles and philosophies underlying any event or action. Formulas are more important than examples. Application of knowledge is not possible without knowing the fundamental rule. Such creative thoughts and expressions give something new to the world. Those towering personalities are like light-houses which show the right path to the misdirected ships in the vast ocean.

Saturday, 1 April 2017

Craving for Importance


Craving for Importance


The desire to be important is the natural urge of a human being. Everyone wants to be important in his own little world. After the gratification of your biological wants, you need the feeling of importance. You wear expensive dresses, buy latest mobile phones and purchase luxury cars. You build houses bigger than your requirement and furnish it tastefully. Children want the exclusive attention of their parents. Parents also feel proud in showing off the intelligence of their sons and daughters. Wives like to be appreciated for their cooking skill and good house-keeping. In this male-dominated society of ours, husbands have taken the position of parmeshwar (God) to feel exalted. They even beat their wives or ill-treat their in-laws to show their supremacy. You love to give English names to your pets. Moti has become Monty and Sheru is now Caesar. In jobs and work-place also, you crave for importance and attention of your boss and seniors. You may have read a story in your school text book which narrates that a boy meets an accident in order to get his name and photograph published in the newspaper. All these are disguised attempts to give you the feeling of self-importance. Cut-throat competition, jealousy, malice and criticism- all these are also endeavours to make you more important than others.

There is nothing wrong in it if it is taken in the right spirit. The craving for importance can be a positive motivation. If you improve your work performance or accelerate your productivity, you will get the appreciation and admiration of everyone. And praise is the most precious and prized possession which even saints can rarely deny.