Wednesday, 18 October 2017

Declutter: The Mantra of Diwali



Declutter: The Mantra of Diwali


We are in the habit of collecting useless and unnecessary things around us. In our houses, there are so many old, broken and dysfunctional things which have lost their utility and value. To welcome Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth, we declutter during Diwali. We dispose off those unwanted articles to create more space. Clear space allows the vital energy to flow unhindered. Prosperity suffocates in a congested atmosphere. It needs openness and freedom to grow and flourish. So, there is a custom of cleaning the house and its surroundings. But this should not be a one-day habit. The concept of cleanliness should be cultivated right from the childhood so that it can become our second nature. Only then can we expect a continuous and perennial prosperity. Swachh Bharat Campaign is a welcome step in this direction to make our country clean and green once again. 
                      But much more important than physical clutter is our mental clutter. We are treating our mind like a garbage-pit. We have piled up negative emotions like vanity, anxiety, pessimism etc. in our mind. In this modern electronic world when we are constantly being bombarded by a lot of information, we have to be extremely careful and selective. Instead of running faster and faster on the materialistic treadmill, we must stop and introspect. We have to filter all the dirt and filth like an aquaguard. We have to disallow all types of negativity from entering our mind. Only pure thoughts of positivity should be permitted. If we allow negative thoughts and feelings to take roots in our mind, they will destroy our chances of success and rob us of our mental peace. A frequent dusting of the mental dirt will make us feel lighter and happier.
                                                                         After the cleaning operation is over, we decorate our houses with earthen lamps, candles or electric bulbs. Similarly, for mental illumination, we should brighten it with the neon lights of positivity. It is the only way to imbibe the spirit of this festival and celebrate it in its true sense.

Thursday, 24 August 2017

Power of Patience



Power of Patience


In this vast world, there is no one who does not have a problem, big or small. There is no place where there is no problem except the grave. Problems are the proof of life. We have to learn the art of coping with the problems patiently. How poor we are without patience!
Patience is the strength of the soul. It is the courage to bear, tolerate and endure even in the worst circumstances. It is the parachute which can land us safely in case of air crash. It is the panacea to fight all adversities and hardships, calamities and misfortunes. “Patience is not about how long someone can wait. It is about how well he behaves while he waits.” Even big trees are uprooted in the wild wind. Grasses, which bow down and lie close to the ground, survive. Dark clouds do not hover over the sky forever. All lean patches pass. All sorry states and situations can be surmounted. Tough times don’t last. Tough people do. All that you need is infinite patience in your heart.
You cannot get a full grown baby before nine months. A certain period of gestation and incubation is needed for the embryo of an idea to grow and mature. People have the passion to start but not the patience to finish. To begin a thing is one thing. But to stay on and continue it till the end is another thing. Most of the failures in the world are the result of such half-hearted adventures. Those, who don’t quit and wait till the end, win the marathon race of life. Milton said: “They also serve who only stand and wait.” So, park your car in the parking zone of patience and wait for the right time to come.

Saturday, 15 July 2017

Magic of Gratitude



 Magic of Gratitude

 Gratitude means being thankful to all those who help you. It is the sweetness of your personality which uplifts you. You owe a sense of gratefulness for all those who have given you something valuable in life. A prayer is also an act of thankfulness to God for all His bounties. You should be greatly obliged to your parents who have given you birth and brought you up with a lot of hardship and pain. You must be thankful to Nature which gives you all the essentials of life free of cost. You owe a deep sense of indebtedness to Mother Earth which sustains and supports you. You cannot repay the debt of the teacher who has showered the blessings of knowledge and wisdom on you. You must be grateful to your wife who is a constant source of care, comfort and companionship. Whosoever has provided you a little moment of joy and happiness in your life deserves your appreciation. It is well said “When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where the winds of forgiveness can erase it. But when someone does good for us, we must engrave it on stone so that no wind can ever erase it.”
                                           If you have this attitude of thankfulness in your personality, you will befriend the whole world. A heart felt thank you with a warm smile is like an icing on the cake. It is magical in its effect and appeal. It is the sweetest and purest expression of your soul, the fairest and loveliest blossom of your heart and the choicest and finest fragrance of your existence. 

Saturday, 17 June 2017

Sorry, I Am Offline.


Sometimes Be Offline

Switching on the smart phone is the first thing that you do when you get up from your bed. Switching off the mobile phone is the last thing that you do before going to sleep. A sleek and sophisticated smart phone in your hand is a style statement. The access of internet is from bedroom to bathroom. People shop online even from their toilets. We entertain a large number of e-mails, chat notifications, comments and likes every day. The more they are there, the higher is your status. E-mails, facebook, apps, chat, video games have become addictions. Knowingly or unknowingly, we are slave to technology which is a good servant but a bad master.
Be always connected is the new mantra of the modern generation. People want to show off that they are busy. Replying e-mails, updating facebook, waiting for other’s reaction on your latest updates have become fashionable. We get irritated if an e-mail or a message does not come for some time. How many mails come to us daily, how many friends are there on the social media and how many likes or positive comments come on our post are matters of social status and professional prestige. We feel incomplete or imperfect without being on-line. We have become an inalienable and integral part of the virtual world.
Being always connected keeps your mind unnecessarily busy all the time. You lose your mental peace and emotional balance. Give rest to your mind. Let it relax. Multi-tasking also badly affects the quality of your work. You do not concentrate on one work at a time. You have created your own little world within this vast world. Relationship is seriously affected. You are so engaged in the virtual world that you have no time even for your family and kids.
                                                                                                                                                       Get rid of this bad habit which is as dangerous as drug-addiction. Sometimes be off-line. You can connect with yourself in a better way. Disconnect to reconnect.

Saturday, 3 June 2017

Respect Is Reciprocal


Respect Is Reciprocal


Everyone, whether rich or poor, deserves respect. Craving for respect is the natural urge and the eternal quest of mankind. Every individual, however petty his post or position may be, has a dignified existence and human dignity has to be respected and honoured. “I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university”, said Albert Einstein.
Courtesy costs nothing but pays much. In my college days at Patna, I used to have tea in a thatched tea stall. An old man served tea. Students generally addressed him disrespectfully. I called him ‘Baba’. He always offered me special tea without any extra charge. Even if he was busy with other customers, he used to hint me with his hand to wait. It was nothing but my courtesy which pleased him and I got special treatment from him. After a long time, when I was well settled in life, I once again visited his shop during my stay at Patna. He, at once, recognized me and greeted with the same hospitality. I was ready to give five hundred rupees for a cup of tea but he said, “No, my son, it is from my side.” My single word of respect won his heart for ever. Such is the magical power of politeness. If you are well-behaved with the waiter in a hotel, he will serve food more joyfully. Your politeness to a rickshaw puller can make his burden bearable and pleasurable.

Give respect if you want respect. Respect cannot be forced or snatched. It has to be earned with good behaviour. Hazrat Ali beautifully says, “I respect elders because they have prayed more and I respect youngers because they have sinned less.” If the world follows his wise advice, all distinctions of the rich and the poor, the high and the low will diminish. All will be the children of God and all will be equal. This will pave the way for a truly egalitarian society.

Sunday, 7 May 2017

Pleasures of Parenting



Pleasures of Parenting


The best moments of your life are the moments which you spend with those whom you love very much. Who else do you love more than your family and kids? But in young age, we are so engrossed in making money that we have no time for them. In the end, we realize that we have missed the most beautiful and most blessed thing in life.
Children do not need your money. They need your time and attention. They don’t need your presents; they need your presence. Spend time with them. Talk to them. Play with them. Appreciate and encourage them. Help them when they fall, support them when they fail and cheer them when they win. Correct them when they commit mistakes and discipline them when they deviate from the right path. Teach them what to do and what not to do in life. Give them the confidence that you are always with them in all ups and downs. Develop them as winners and achievers, innovators and leaders who will rock the world.
Effective parenting is a great responsibility. Like a good gardener, you have to patiently watch the sapling grow day by day. Water it, nourish it, nurture it and tend it with love and care. Trim and prune all unnecessary outgrowths. Weed out negative emotions and feed it with the fertilizer of positive values. A day will come when beautiful flowers will bloom. They will dance gorgeously in the morning breeze and spread their sweet fragrance far and wide. You will also feel pride, joy, contentment and fulfillment, watching them from your verandah.

A child who is brought up with love and care will radiate affection and warmth around himself. There is no greater pleasure than re-living your childhood with your kids and there is no greater loss than missing your kid’s childhood.

Sunday, 30 April 2017

Schedule your time


Schedule your time


Nature gives twenty four hours to everyone; neither more nor less to anyone. Time is the scarcest resource. It is at once the most valuable and the most perishable of all our possessions. Those who make the worse use of it always complain of its shortage. Enough time is there for the people who know the art of proper utilization and management of it. Not lack of time but lack of direction is the real problem. Optimum utilization of time alone can take to great heights. Ordinary people spend time but great people use it.
The great craft of time management his in systematic time planning. If you fail to man, you plan to fail. Devote most of your time to the most important things in life. Invest this capital in the wisest way.
There should be a daily plan and a long term plan. Make a to-do-list for every day. Note it in a diary or a calendar or program it in your mobile or computer. Always see that your daily plan leads you nearer to your long term goal. There should be a time limit for achieving your target. It will always remind you of the value of fleeting time. Try to do your work with full devotion and honesty within the time frame. Success is the result of the maximum utilization of time. Unexpected problems may crop up but you have to be ready to face them.
There is a biological clock in your body. You have to find out your own biological time when your potential is at its peak. Make the most productive and creative use of that hour.

Learn to say a strong no to those activities which waste your precious time. You cannot recycle wasted time. Lost time is never found again. Saving time is also a sound technique of time management. It enhances your productivity. There is no wrong time to do a right thing. So, just short doing it now. Go the extra mile before your time runs out.